(Editor’s note: the edmontonian now continues its sex-focused column. Not always the best to leave up on your work computer while you wander to the coffee machine.
Imagine this.
It’s a beautiful summer night in Edmonton, a man and woman meet at a bar downtown. The man introduces himself, but gives a false name to “protect” his identity. After some idle chatter, and a bit of random flirting, he and the woman go and have sex in a parking lot.
It’s consensual, and even if it’s not the best sex ever, both adults have
said yes.
After, he quickly dresses and departs before she has a chance to figure out the details of the rest of his life. The name is there but the rest is a mystery.
Later on she discovers, through her social network, that this man has
lied about who he was and she presses charges. The man, is sentenced to
18 months in jail.
Impossible?
In Edmonton, probably. After all, if we put all the douchebags who lied about who they were (whatever the lie may be) to get sex in jail, our streets
would be a lot emptier.
In the Middle East though, this ground-breaking case has come to the public attention and created a wave of controversy.
A Palestinian man, Sabbar Kashur, going under a Jewish name, had sex with an Israeli woman and was accused of “rape by deception,” in creating the illusion that he was Jewish.
His lie about his identity has landed him 18 months in jail.
Granted, this case has a very different feel to it, because the country it happened in is warring with another nation, but is this really necessary? And is this man guilty when the female had said yes?
I’ve traveled around this area, and things are pretty hot and heavy, but how far do we have to go?
Rape by deception is defined as duping someone into having sex, without force or violence. But if this gate is opened further, how many more people
are going to be punished?
Saying “I love you” to score is a lie. Using death, blue balls, and promises of a brighter future are all lies that, under this law, could be prosecuted because they’ re all deceptions.
It’s no secret that most people lie a little when it comes to relationships and sometimes, whatever you have to do to sack someone, isn’t always honest.
Lying is about motivation, and when you are motivated to get sex sometimes you get down and dirty.
Although Kashur’s case is a special one, it gives one something to think about, for both personal and political reasons.
However, I won’t give up telling a few white lies every so often, and if someone is trying to bed me, the lies better be damn creative.
Until next time, keeping it smart, single and sexy I’m Little Miss Curious.
